Ang isang relasyon ay binubuo ng dalawang tao na nagmamahalan. For some people, having a relationship feels great. To some naman, problema daw ang isang relationship.
Well in my opinion, depende naman kasi kung paano hinahandle ng dalawang tao ang isang relationship. Some people thinks that problema lang yun kasi iniisip nila yung freedom . Na kung may relationship ka, kulong ka na. Plus yung sa finances at monthsary gifts nga na dapat every month ginagawa. Hindi naman about monthsary gifts at freedom ang relationship. A relationship is you being ready to find someone who can hold you. In short: Hati-buhay ba kung baga. Oo may fights, merong dates at saka kung ano mang typical na naririnig natin sa iba about sa relationship pero natural lang yan. Lahat naman yan dadaanan natin even if you want to or not. Sa relationship, para din teamwork. Pero within that teamwork, may balance na responsibilities ang isa’t isa.
Compare natin sa mga nagsasabi ng masarap daw ang relationship. Masarap dahil ang sarap sa feeling na may isang tao na ipeprecious ka, na mamahalin ka at handang makinig sayo. Some, dahil daw sa gifts or sexual o para masabi lang na in a relationship. Hindi mo matatawag na relationship yun. That is called “lust”. Hindi din usapan ang padamihan ng magiging girlfriend o boyfriend, o yung lalaki o babaeng gagastusan ka. Ang usapan dito is yung taong either sasandalan mo o makakasama mo habang buhay.
Ako, oo masarap. Masarap hindi dahil sa pagsusuyo o pagbibigay ng regalo, kung hindi ang sarap kasi handa niya maging buhay ang buhay mo. And I do the same to him. Masarap kasi na may tunay na nagmamahal sayo at walang sukatan sa physical o mga materyal na bagay.
Ako yung klaseng girlfriend na okay lang kahit walang matanggap tuwing monthsary o material na bagay. Dahil unang una hindi ako pumasok ng relationship para dun. Pero ako laging nagbibigay. I don’t spend money to buy gifts, I create them. Effort kung baga. From the heart and not from the money. At saka nature ko na mamigay.
Hindi ako yung girlfriend na nagtatampo tuwing walang matatanggap na letters o flowers. Regalo na sa akin yung patience, care at love niya throughout our relationship. Hindi ako yung typical girls na nagseselos tuwing may kausap siyang iba o ginagawa lang siyang bodyguard. Pinapakilala ko siya sa lahat. Kahit saan kami pumunta, even with friends o family, I never let go of his hand. Mas hinihigpitan ko hawak ko sa kanya. Akala ko nga ayaw niya eh. Yun daw talaga gusto niya, na hindi ko siya ikinahihiya kahit for me wala naman dapat ikahiya. Kung ano kami sa isa’t isa, ganoon din pinapakita namin.
Iba’t iba kasi relationship. Meron trip lang, meron naawa sa manliligaw, iba naman display lang. Meron nga magkarelationship na ng 3 years, pero hindi pa din nila alam masyado ang isa’t isa. At eto pa, meron din sa text lang nagkadevelopan.
Kami, Bestfriendship. In a relationship at tropa at the same time. Yung tipong lovers kayo and ang quality time ninyo either playing video games o some hang outs na hindi mo makikita sa ibang typical relaationship. Natural lang kami, down-to-earth. Pinapakita namin kung sino kami at hindi yung ninanais naming pagkatingin nila.
If you want to have the best relationship:
- Never manligaw o magpaligaw sa text. Mas maganda sa personal kayo maguusap o sasabihin na manliligaw ka. It will make you both more comfortable kung naging kayo na at walang awkwardness.
- Somehow, you should have same interests. Kung wala, try out each other’s interests. Trying out new things won’t harm you. Pero know your limits.
- Laging isipin ang future ninyo. Kailangan may aim kayong pareho.
- Be open to each other. THIS IS VERY IMPORTANT. Huwag maawkwardan lalo na sa girls. Share them kung may menstruation kayo, o umutot ka sa harap niya. Haha!
- Kung may problema kayo, mag usap kayo. Don’t let your friends tell each other and use them as messangers. Kung may problema, usap kayo. Hindi yung nandadamay pa kayo. Pinoproblema tuloy nila problema ninyo. Minsan may kampihan pa. Maganda kayo na lang.
- Centro ninyo si God.
Madami pa. Basta…
Been cheated on? Take that as a lesson. Kulang ka sa responsibilities o sadyang hindi mo kinilala yung taong mahal mo or masyado kang loose sa paghandle. Or maybe pride perhaps.
Pride is the destroyer of all relationships. Kaya dapat din hindi nagtitimbangan ng kasalanan. Learn to forgive. Lahat nangyayari sa relationship dahil either tinuturuan ka maging mas better, o gusto talaga sayo happy life ni God. Take everything as destiny. As in plano para sayo. In the end, you will be the happiest of all. Masarap ipakita kung sino kayo talaga.
Tingin mo kulang? Huwag siya ang pakilusin mo para iimprove lahat. Dapat nagtutulungan kayo. Hindi pwedeng isa lang nakilos.
Mababaw? Hindi lang nagtext magagalit ka na? Huwag ganun. Syempre hindi lang naman ikaw buhay ng tao. May ibang responsibilidad din siya. Always have understandings.
"Babae" ka dapat ikaw sinusuyo? “Lalaki" ka kaya dapat pride? No no. Equality dapat. Wag isipin na babae o lalaki kayo. We are all created in the same image and likeness of God. And lahat ng tao pantay pantay. Just do your parts.
Jealousy? No. Jealousy is okay. Pero wag sumobra. Kasi nakakaturn off at sakal din yun sa relationship. Trust issues din yun. Kung may friends sila na kinaiinggitan mo, make friends with them instead.
Effort? Hindi ka lang nabigyan ng regalo, wala ng agad effort? Intindihin mo na lang lalo na kung estudyante pa kayo. Hindi pa stable income ninyo. Kung may work na kayo and wala pa din, isipin mo kung saan niya ginagastos pera niya. Kung puro sarili niya, maybe just talk properly.
And lastly: Hindi pa pwede ipakita sa lahat relationship ninyo? Eh di sana hindi ka na nagrelationship. Hindi pwedeng tinatago mo yan. And “hindi pa”? Why? Should you wait for something bago mapakita sa lahat pagmamahalan ninyo? Conditional love na yan. Kung unconditional love yan, walang kundisyon ang samahan ninyo. Wala yung “hindi pa pwede”.
CONCLUSION: Relationships are like roller coasters. Taas baba. Walang perfect relationship. Lahat nagaaway o nagtatampuhan. Pero maayos lang yun kung nagusap kayo. Simple. Masaya dahil masarap talaga makasama ang mahal mo panghabang buhay. Don’t think negative na baka maghiwalay o lokohin ka o ano man. Kung ano destiny mo, ayun ang mangyayari.
Lately, we’ve been dealing with a lot of majors problems. It is so major that we were suppose to end up our relationship.
We don’t know what is happening, why these things are happening and how did it happened. All we ever thought is that it is not our fault. Blaming each other, pride, no self-control is there.
We went to JZone and went back to service but it is our last since our schedule doesn’t fit.
Today, our hearts were opened again as we listened to the word of God. Our hearts were like refreshed after attending there again. We were inactive for almost half a year since our schedule last semester didn’t fit and no DGroups at our campus fits at our time.
God brought us there. And he brought us to remind Jules and I that whatever problems we are facing today or someday, he is always going to be there. We should never lose hope and we should have more faith in Him.
The preachings and topic really helped us. It made our burden hearts glow again. The word of God is like magic.
God is our Savior, he died on the cross to save us from our sins. And sharing the gospel will change someone’s life. It changed us and we hope that we can change others as well by sharing it.
Jules also told me that him and his ex never did the connection that we did. After the service, we opened our hearts to each other and have a real heart-to-heart talk. Not just talking about the future, but from the real serious matters to God himself. From ourselves down to the fate that is going to appear someday starting from the small or big things that we do. We are both Catholics but we attend Christian services. As what we can say: It is not based on the religion, it is within your faith on Him.
I’am currently alive again and my heart became as strong as my faith. Thank you God for letting us realize everything. Sorry if we forgot You and just remembers You everytime we have a problem.
I believe in you. The things that are happening today has a purpose. And I know God, you have the best plans prepared for us. :3
June 10, 2013: 14th Monthsary Surprise #1
I’ am still in to you. My love for you hasn’t changed. We’ve been through a lot of ups and downs, and we still fought for the better. People might think bad things about us, but we just held hands and continued life as it is together. I’ am not afraid to show everybody that I love you so much. You deserve my love because you are the best man that I ever knew. You gave priceless love, your tender care and your life. You are a good person deep down and you always give your all to me.
14 months might be still not as far as a decade, but I will assure you that my love for you will last forever. I’ am going to fight no matter what, even if it reaches the point where people destroys my personality. We had faced a lot of problems and we solved it together.
God knows the truth, and we will stick with it until the end. People might judge me and they might be against me on loving you, but that won’t make me give up. I have God and I was not given a life just to be brought down. I was molded for you, my heart was shaped for you and I was created for you.
It is not yet our time to stop, reality is just beginning. And I will not stop just because.
Lalaban ako Jules. Lalaban tayo. Husgahan nila tayo, pero lalaban tayo. Together. We will not stop. Because we are together. God is beside us.
I love you Jules. Happy 14 Months. To infinity and beyond.
That moment when you and your boyfriend were at the counter waiting for the pants that you bought for him to be payed up. A lot of people are in line waiting for their turn.
Then suddenly after you payed up, your boyfriend suddenly kissed you on the cheek and said “Thank You”. Then the people at the line whispered “That’s so sweet”.
That moment when I’ am not feeling that well. Then he laid me down and left me there. After a couple of minutes, he went back and he was holding a sandwich. He made it for me.
I’m a lucky bitch. Boyfriend making sandwiches and shit.
You know what that is? It’s COMMUNICATION. Hindi ninyo maalis sa amin yan. When ang isang walang load, loloadan ng isa. Lagi kami naghahanap ng paraan para makapagusap. Ayaw namin yung mga offline messages and yung isa lang magtetext. Lahat ng paraan gagawin namin. Kahit makitext pa kami as long as magkausap kami.
Kasi alam ninyo yun. When puro offline messages lang or text lang ikaw tapos wala kang natatanggap na reply parang kausap mo lang sarili mo eventhough nababasa din ng isa. Then isa pa is seeing each other. Kung vacation, more than 2x a week kami nagkikita and bond. Wala sa amin yung salitang “tinatamad ako”, “bawal ako” at lalo na “busy ako”. Kung gusto may paraan, kung ayaw may dahilan.
I just want to share this kasi talagang cannot be seperated from each other kami. Kahit sa school yan ang sinasabi. Kahit shuffle ang sectioning ng class, talagang magmamakaawa kami para maging magclassmates kami. Hehe.
Ganito kami magmahalan. Sa future kasi for sure puro work na. Hindi naman namin sinasanay na magkasama kami, gusto lang namin sulitin. Kasi balang araw, mawawala din lahat yan. Dahil magiging mas busy kami sa professions namin. :)
Kaya nga tinawag na RELATIONSHIP. Kailangan connected kayo. Kailangan nagtutulungan, pareho nakilos. That’s how we roll. ;)
Far from one another, but now has more understandings. Within the past month, we had a tough time. But if you love a person so much, you will find a way to fix things up. No pride shall be included. Talks and understanding is the key, openess and appreciation is next.
Now we are 1000000% fine. We are still classmates. Planning to continue our plans. Our relationship is becoming more mature. 14 months is coming up. That is 1 year and 2 months perhaps. I told Jules before that if we reached 1 year and 2 months, his courtship and relationship with his ex is PWNED. Hahaha! But yeh. That was before. All I know now is that Jules and I are really tough. Our relationship is tough. Fights might be there, misunderstandings and plain shitz that every couple has or experiencing. But staying together and still having a strong intuitional understandings is the best. :3
14 months, here we are coming soon. And yeh by the way, our Tumblr layout is still not done. Iam sick and my sister keeps on using my laptop even if she has her own. Geez.
Natatandaan ko yung mga moments nung First Year kami nung meron pa kaming Art App. Talent kasi namin ni Jules ang arts and in the class, they know us as the students who gets the highest grades on our plates. Pero ang unforgettable moment for me is yung times na kinocompete ko sarili ko kay Jules dati. Hindi pa kami close at hindi kami naguusap. Pero I see his works and just to prove myself kung sino mas magaling sa amin, pinapatanong ko sa friend ko kung anong grade niya lagi. But no offense, mas mataas nakukuha ko. Hehe. Natutuwa ako tuwing ako nakakakuha ng pinakamataas o mas mataas kay Jules, pero walang halong pagyayabang sa lahat, sa sarili ko lang. Hehe I never knew na those times din pala napapansin din ni Jules mga drawings ko. Na naaastigan siya sa akin at he thinks I’am unique. He wanted me to become his friend before (ayon sa pagtatanong ko nung naging kami na). Then isang beses pinili kaming dalawa ng professor namin na magrepresent sa poster at slogan contest sa department namin. Natatandaan ko nung pumunta kami ng office para magsign up and inopen niya ang door for me at ako ang pinakauna niyang pinapasok. Nasa isip ko “Wow gentleman!”. Actually, I kinda have a crush on him na that time kasi dati nakikita ko siya naggigitara and I see myself on him. Silent type, mahiyain, artistic. Sa isip ko, kilig. Pero kung titignan mo ako, walang pake. Dinaanan ko lang siya at hindi man nag thank you. Hahaha! Snob daw ako sabi ng madami sa una daw. Nakakatakot daw lapitan. Ganun din si Jules kung titignan mo. Pero in the end hindi. Hindi kasi ako pakitang-tao at showy. Well anyways, hindi ko lang maimagine na ang dating kakompetensya ko sa Art App, ang dati kong crush ay boyfriend ko na for more than 1 year. At kahit those times pa lang, parang talagang makikita mo na pareho pala talaga kami ng isip. :)